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Ways to Deal With a Bully

Hi guys, I hope you’re doing well. I’m going to talk about bullying today. It’s a really serious topic and I don’t take it lightly. The reason I’m talking about it is that I’ve heard recently from a family member that they were being bullied. Bullying can take many forms, whether you’re being isolated or called names or people are spreading rumors. I took some time to really educate myself on this topic and really make sure that I’m passing along useful tips to give you guys about how to deal with bullies.

The Bully Is Hurting and Wants to Share Their Pain

The thing to realize about a bully is a bully is just someone who is hurt. They are a person who is taking their frustrations out on you and it goes back to an old saying that says “hurt people hurt people.” That’s all a bully is, someone who is hurt who is hurting others. So anytime someone is purposefully hurting you or bullying you or hating on you realize that it has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with the bully and the hurting paying that they’re going through. Don’t take it personally and feel like there’s something wrong with you. If anything you should be flattered because the bully is going to pick on someone who they see as a threat. In essence the bully is saying “Hey, you have a lot going for yourself you have something that I admire so I’m going to pick on you and bring you down to my level.” That’s all it is. The bully sees something good in you so you can take that as a bittersweet complement. I’m not just saying that you should befriend them, get out of harm’s way. What I am saying is that it has nothing to do with you.

Find Someone To Talk To

Another thing that I suggest is to get a close support group so if you have a close friend that you can trust or a close adult or relative, talk to them. I understand the hesitation of talking to someone for fear of escalating the matters but if you can, find someone that you can really trust or who can walk around with you where the bully situation occurs.

Remember that violence never solves anything. Never pay back their hate with more hate. That’s only going to do two things.

Number 1: it’s going to make things worse. All they’re going to do is get more angry and come back at you more aggressively

Number 2: It brings you down to their level you want to maintain your character and maintain your integrity. If it’s a non-life threatening situation or if it’s not physical just try your best.

I know it’s hard, but try to live your life. Try to be happy so they believe that they can’t affect you and that they’re not getting to you. If there’s something that you love to do just keep doing it. Don’t stop doing what you love to do. Don’t ever let a threat of a person keep you from doing what you like to do. I don’t care if they’re isolating you, I don’t care if they’re discouraging you or calling you names you keep doing what you like to do. Show that bully that they are not affecting you. That’s all they’re after, is your response.. The good news is you will develop a thicker skin.

Don’t Stop Doing What You Enjoy

I got picked on when I was in school. People made fun of my nose. I remember this one bully in sixth grade they used to pick on me so bad I came home crying, I woke up crying. I hated going to school. Even here online, I get negative comments about my articles and about how I’m a loser. I will never let negative comments keep me from writing articles because I work to encourage you guys and that is what’s most important to me. Encouraging you guys means more than any negative comment that I can ever get. You can’t pay back evil by doing evil. You should only pay back evil by doing good.

Stand Up For Yourself

Now here’s when things get really difficult. As much as I’d like to say to just ignore the bully, there will come a time when you will have to stand up for yourself. Bullies are like predators. They smell fear they sense insecurities. To stand up for yourself you’re going to have to dilute the situation. You’re going to have to call the bully out. If they’re calling you names if they’re picking on you, turn this situation around. Stand tall, shoulders back. Say “I’m sorry, are you having a bad day?” Try not to get intimidated and don’t get angry or emotional because that’s what they want. Your greatest bet is to act unaffected. If it gets physical or verbally abusive or gets life-threatening get an adult involved immediately.

I really hope this helps you out. I’ve been through these situations before and this has helped me. Just remember it’s not you, it’s the bully and your best bet is to feel sorrow for them and to not take it personally.


Carpinteria Residents — We hear You!

Children are truly our future we must support one another and provide a environment where they can flourish in the world.

Our school district is continually rolling out new programs for the children in our district so they may have a brighter future, and though there are challenges ahead of us, we can always trust our teachers and our faculty for providing an environment that is supportive for our children’s future.

Each year we evaluate our curriculum to ensure that we are providing the most capable of our pupils so they can prosper in the world of not only today, but Tomorrow’s World.  With technology and improved instruction, we can always ensure that our faculty is provided the most resourceful tools and equipment to help our children thrive in the world.

We are always looking for new ideas and we are accomplishing our mission as our goals expand, and our district improves our existing programs.  With programs happening from kindergarten to 12th grade, our children are continually finding themselves more and more equipped with the right tools that colleges and future employers require of such people of the next generation.

Whenever you are questioning whether or not our district is providing adequate service to support our young people, you will know that our faculty is providing the most useful tools for the children in our district.  Whenever you are considering sponsoring our district or by providing your insights for our community, the people you are relying upon are well-suited and capable for providing and encouraging learning environment for students of all ages within our district.

Our district is continuously looking to improve our abilities to provide a warm and welcoming environment for students across our school system, and we know that our abilities to execute winning school programs relies on you.  If you would like to provide your own ideas and support feel free to contact us today


Direction for This Blog

The Carpinteria Community is wonderful, and we would like to highlight some of the figures in our community which makes this a wonderful place to live.  Our children continue to rise and be provided with unprecedented opportunities, and it’s residents like you, who make all the difference.

The direction for our blog will be two-fold.  Our internal team will provide you with updates within the community, and we will offer you an opportunity to provide your perspective by posting on this blog.

If you would like to get started, please contact the webmaster and tell us more about your ideal perspective to help the Carpinteria community.

And to send you off, here’s a little fun from our talent show last year (can you believe it’s been that long?!).  Do you remember this?