Carpinteria CONNECT

Carpinteria Unified School District CARP Childrens Project

Proven Ways to Help Kids Make New Friends

Socializing is an essential part of humanity since the dawn of time. This is the only reason, for our survival in the harsh environment which was back then mother Earth. That is why, it is more than important to convey the teachings of socializing to the future generations, because this is what legacy is all about. If we remain distant and secluded from all others no matter of our age, we are bound to feel lonely and forgotten. So today I will give you some helpful advice on how to make your children more social and adaptive in terms of his surroundings with their future friends and comrades.

Let us start from the basics. How to influence your child, unconsciously (yes I mean unconsciously not subconsciously because those are entirely different terms) in the early stages of it’s development. We will seek the council of none other than Sigmund Freud. According to him there are 5 stages of development throughout human life, which are the following: oral, anal, phallic, latent, genital. We will talk about he latent stage, because in it the child’s primal impulses gravitate towards concepts such as friendships, education and hobbies. This is around the age of 5 or 6 and continues until puberty. The energy of the child is channeled into acquiring knowledge and improving skills in all sorts of different areas. This is the time when the parents should put an emphasis on the socializing part, by instructing their child to go out and play with at least one other child, while at the same time constructing ideas such as sharing, patience (for example when taking turns in certain games).

A wise parent should never fright at the sight of his child, getting in some sort of a scuffle with other children, because the mind of a young ling is innocuous and pure. They will always settle their differences in favor of the fun time and games, that is why children have the potential to establish the most honest and real relationships, in comparison to most adults. It is so easy because the child does not overthink, it only feels thus it will always come back and forgive others transgressions.

Risks should be partaken, there is no need for parents to be overly-protective of their children. They should give them freedom, to go out in front of the house or take them for a walk in the park or playgrounds so that they can meet others and form meaningful bonds. Another helpful idea is that of children’s parties, this is usually arranged by the mother and other children are invited. This way, the child learn to share it’s own with others and get used to the fact that it is good to be generous and hospitable.

Later in the years when the child starts going to school, arrangements with the teachers should be made. Teachers also play essential role in the development of the social skills of a child, because the teacher is there to unite the class and play the role of keeper of peace, this is achieved if the teacher has understanding of each child’s preferences and interests, this way the teacher will form a team with your child and others, according to the interests.

In conclusion, children have the potential of forming bonds by themselves, but never is a little push unnecessary. Parents should supervise their children and lend them a hand in times of need, but socializing is generally embedded in both our biological programming and spiritual necessity. Everything will fall into place naturally, given enough time and space!